Maybe you have the same argument over and over, even though neither of you wants to have it anymore. One person pursues while the other shuts down.
Small disagreements become enormous. Resentment has been quietly accumulating. You feel more like roommates, co-parents, or business partners than a couple.
Or perhaps something specific has shaken your relationship: an affair, a betrayal, a major life transition, parenting stress, conflict about sex or money, extended family issues, or a loss of trust.
Couples therapy gives you a place to slow the pattern down and understand what is actually happening underneath it
Communication that repeatedly turns into conflict
Emotional distance, loneliness, or feeling more like roommates
Trust after infidelity, secrecy, or betrayal
Differences around sex, affection, parenting, money, or responsibilities
Recurring patterns that leave one or both of you feeling unheard, criticized, or disconnected

Sex and intimacy are deeply personal, which can make problems in this part of a relationship particularly painful.
You may love your partner and still feel disconnected sexually. One person may want sex more often than the other. Sex may have become pressured, avoided, routine, uncomfortable, or surrounded by hurt feelings. You may be struggling with desire, arousal, body image, sexual confidence, or changes following childbirth, illness, aging, trauma, or other life experiences.
Sometimes the difficulty isn’t sex itself. It is everything sex has come to represent: rejection, desirability, closeness, vulnerability, trust, acceptance, or fear of disappointing your partner.
Sex therapy provides a private, affirming place to talk openly about things that may have been difficult to put into words.

Differences in sexual desire or interest
Loss of sexual or romantic connection
Anxiety, avoidance, or difficulty talking about sex
Feeling rejected, pressured, unwanted, or disconnected
Exploring intimacy, sexual identity, needs, boundaries, and preferences
Tucker Landry and Chloe Cook are both warm, affirming therapists, but they bring very different styles and areas of focus to their work. We encourage you to read both of their bios and see who feels most like the right fit for your relationship.
Not sure who feels right?
Explore both therapist's bio to decide for yourself. You can also reach out to Sherri, our Intake Coordinator, who can help you think through the best fit

Tucker works with couples who want support strengthening their relationship, communicating more effectively, working through conflict, and understanding the patterns that keep them stuck. Sex and intimacy can certainly be part of the conversation when they are affecting the relationship, but they are not a particular focus of his work.
Chloe works with many of those same relationship concerns, with additional specialization in sex therapy, sexuality, and intimacy. She is LGBTQIA+ affirming and especially comfortable working with kink, polyamory, consensual non-monogamy, and diverse relationship structures.
Couples and Sex Therapy Throughout Northern Virginia
Family Therapy Center provides therapy for couples throughout Northern Virginia, including Ashburn, Leesburg, Sterling, Purcellville, and throughout Loudoun County.
Traditional and non traditional couples are welcome to reach out.
In person and secure virtual appointments are available from our Lansdowne, Virginia office.